Love. What is it exactly? Not the textbook definition, but what? As a teenager we often think we are in love with our significant others or our favorite celebrity, but honestly what is it? Who can say what is or is not love? I personally think that love is the most ugliest and horrendous form of vulnerability that exists among the human race. It is a form of losing some of yourself and to someone. Being in love is like giving someone a bow and arrow, pulling back and hoping that they just won’t let go.. But if they do? Is the question we often ask ourselves. And that is the ugly side of the love spectrum we have either experienced or will experience one day. To be in love is to willingly give a part of yourself so personal that can not be taken back regardless of if they let go of that arrow you so blindly trusted them with and there would be nothing you could do about it. I do not like to think of myself as a romantic or anything but i like to think of all the great realities in the universe and one of them seems to be that falling in love with something or something is a great way of putting yourself in great danger.
Someone once asked me what is worse emotional pain or physical pain.. My response was that without a doubt emotional pain is definitely the worst thing you can possibly feel ever and I will explain why. If I were to fall off of a motorcycle or get stabbed in the leg I can always go to the doctor to get pain medicine and a comfy hospital bed at the emergency room. On the other hand, I do not know any infirmary that can mend a broken heart, a broken spirit or hurt feelings. Think about it, any modern technology that we have in today’s hospitals can fix your aches and pains but none can even begin to fix the problems that “love” brings with it. From personal experience, I can say that there is no consoling a broken heart. No amount of words of encouragement, ice cream, music or movies can make you feel better. No amount of medicine can make you forget. Believe me. It is probably the longest ‘healing process’ one can endure.
To be frankly honest, it is not better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. That’s like saying it is better to have jumped off of a building and missed the cushion than to never have jumped. Sounds ridiculous right? Exactly. You’re better off never experiencing love if it’s just going to end ugly. Although, before it goes sour, love is one of the most exhilarating, confusing and happiest feelings of pure ecstasy in the entire world. Better than anything you have ever felt ever, you’re happy all the time for no reason and no outside force can make you feel anything less. It’s honestly a beautiful warm and awesome thing… that is before it shows its ugly side.
There are many ways for people to express themselves. Whether it be by getting tattoos, how you wear your clothing/ what you wear, putting on makeup (or lack thereof), and even with what you do to your hair. It is statistically proven, that about 75% of all females dye their hair at least once in their lifetime. But in 1950, when females first started dyeing their hair. It was only around 7%. Which raises several questions in my mind. Some of them being , why did it become so popular and when did females start dyeing their hair so excessively? Did most women wait until their hair started turning gray? Or was it way before then, around when they were six years old?
With every passing generation, kids experiment with new thing, younger and younger. I’m not exactly sure why though, I miss being a child immensely! You get to run around like a lunatic and not have a care in the world. But nowadays, kids are just throwing it away like it’s nothing. This is most likely because being an adult has been romanticized heavily in the media. So, kids think that it’s necessary to have long, bright blue, and purple hair at the age of six. When they don’t even realize how much stress they are putting and their hair follicles and how that might affect them in the future.
When I first was thinking about coloring my hair, I wanted it to be red. So, when I asked my mom and she said no. I looked online and read that I could use Kool Aid and leave in conditioner, to make my hair appear red (but only in direct sunlight). So, I secretly did it when I was bored one day and it didn’t turn out that bad. Though I'm not completely sure how it affected my hair, besides giving it a cherry smell for a week. From this experience, I learned that it's best to just be patient, and let someone who knows what they're doing, take care of my hair.
Later I told my mom about this and she finally let me get it dyed, because she didn’t want me to keep putting random things in my hair. My mom took me to her favorite salon and paid for my streaks to get it done professionally. The first two colors that chose to get was a medium purple color that transitioned into a pink. As a kid, I loved my bright colored hair. It made me stand out more. But now I just wish that I waited a little while because young Nicole could take care of herself, let alone her hair.
I suppose it should be up to the kid’s parents, on whether or not they should dye their hair. I feel as though parents should inform their child thoroughly about what they’re going to be doing to their hair. So, even if you grew up with strict parents, you should just talk to a hair professional, if you wanted it that badly. Instead of doing it yourself, because that always ends in a disaster. However, if you had more accepting parents. You should use that opportunity to get it done professionally. Which would have decreased the risk of your hair becoming damaged.
I asked two people what they thought about this, and Imani C. said “Don’t do it at all! But, if you really want to color it. Go to a hair salon or just read the direction on the at house kit carefull”. Lisa T. however had a different view of the subject, she said “Do whatever you want! It’s your hair! If something bad happens, just wear a wig”. Although I think she was joking a bit. At the end of the day it is your hair, just take care of it.
When I was a kid, I used to watch so many movies and TV shows about high school and what it was like. I was excited for highschool, I thought we would have dances and pep rallies, talking to my friends practically the entire day, and football games that were insane. But the reality is that it's nothing like the movies, at all actually.
All of the things you saw on TV, the movies you watched, The Breakfast Club, The Mean Girls, none of it is realistic, aside from that Burn Book in Mean Girls, somebody in this school probably has one.. And you're probably in it. But did you ever realize that they basically never went to class? Seriously, they either hung by a locker or were in the bathroom, and they would just be talking. About a boy, he-said she-said, some girl that decided to wear a dress when it's like -12192 degrees outside, all that. And I don't know about you, but I've never gotten the chance to just chill all day and talk about whatever. Once that bell rings I'm off to my next class, and usually i'm on the 1st headed to the 5th, so there's no time to waste. Do you really think i'd have time to see my friend in the halls and actually be able to stop and chat with them instead of just saying "Hey!" and keep it moving? That we could actually have a conversation and then be like "Well i've gotta go, see ya." No, once that bell rings, you're late and a lot of teachers really hate lateness, trust me. Nothing is more embarrassing than when you walk into a class late and all eyes are on you like it's the second coming of Jesus.
I've always wanted to have nice high school, a place that i wouldn't mind spending 8 hours in. With food that doesn't look like someone chewed it up and spat it out, or hallways that don't smell like foot fungus and farts, and maybe bathrooms that were clean, had toilet paper, and some damn soap, maybe some trashcans so the nasty little gross girls stop putting their monthly stuff (if you know what i'm sayin) in the weirdest places for you to find unexpectedly (ladies holla if you hear me now.) Or seats in the lunchroom that aren't about to break when you haven't even sat down yet, just all in all a clean school.
“I got my hopes up, just to let them be brought down,” says Maria Leonetti, “I thought high school was gonna be a cool, fun experience, but to be honest it’s just a big stress ball in my life.” A lot of people believed that high school was going to be at least close to the movies or tv shows, because if they weren’t, why would it be acceptable on TV? The truth is, is that it is for aesthetic. They spice it all up to make it look nice, and dramatic. “In all three of the years i’ve been in highschool, i don't have one good memory from highschool, that i’d actually go on to tell my grandchildren.” says Macie Undzinski.
In my first article, I would like to discuss my feelings on abuse. Specifically child abuse. And how I wish everyone could have a normal family. When 2 people fall in love, they should both discuss on what they want in the relationship, and their plan on how to achieve that. They should not have kids just because that's the typical thing to do or because that's what everyone expects. Have them when you feel it is right and when you know you can handle them. Kids are a huge responsibility. My mom had 5 and she can tell you that it's not easy. My parents both agreed on it and made sure they had a plan on supporting us, raising us, and making sure we have everything we need. It upsets me that people just have kids and do not care about them. There are people in this world that are trying so hard to have children but cannot. And you take that for granted. Children are a very special thing. However, i am aware that they do not always happen on purpose. But it it does. They should own up to it and try their hardest to have it be healthy and happy. It is an innocent child and it deserves to be loved. It breaks my heart hearing stories about children getting abused. But let me just talk about the parents themselves. Sometimes marriages just don't work out. They aren't perfect. But lets be honest: what relationship is perfect? None. if you choose to have a divorce then that's on you. But do not bring innocent children into the situation. Do not kick them to the curb and say you never want to see them again. You're the adult and need to act like one. You should be protecting them out of all people.
And I would just like to take a minute and rant about how the police handle this. They just come in, and do not even bother listening to the child's side. They are obviously hurt and although they are very young, they have a voice too and it should be heard over all the rest. They think that the child is too young and the parent says that the child is the problem. So who takes the win? The abusive parent. Why are the police just listening to the adult and saying that there is nothing they can do? If the child sas they are scared to go in the home because they may strike again why not take them out of the environment and put them in a better one. Why are you just allowing that child to sit and suffer as if in jail. All they wanted is love and a loving family that they could look up to and know that they are always there no matter what. Now instead, they look back on the abuse, the yelling, the fights and so on. What did they ever do to you? It doesn't matter how frustrated you are or how angry you are at the world. You need to make sure your children who YOU bought to this world have a good life and everything they need. They should be your priority and not your stress ball. How is an adult just going to hit a child? Let alone watch someone hit your child. How sick are you?
I can only imagine what the child goes through having to go through that. What message are you giving the future. That fighting beating and yelling is the answer to everything? No. you should teach them right and give them an example of how to achieve that so they can go on teaching their future children. I just can not believe how sick some people are to do that. Obviously the child would not be able to defend themselves as well because they are so young. Doe sit give you satisfaction causing harm? And then they say the kid is bad, when they are the one that created this entire mess. They are the ones that need help. The police should really listen to the children s. It doesn't matter what race, how old, how tall, nothing. They should be heard and taken away from this situation and not have to wait and have it happen again as if it's a cycle. This is not the life children should live. And it only gets worse as they grow. If you have problems with the child get it help. If you are hitting a child for no reason, what are you doing with yourself? Is this how you want to be remembered? Just know what you are doing and what you are creating. It is you who decides your life so make it abuse and problem free. STOP THE ABUSE.